Love the one you’re with

I just finished reading Love the one you’re with by Emily Griffin . This is one of several books by her I have read or listened to via Audio and really enjoy them.  I tend to enjoy the “easy reads”.  When I do have a chance to read or listen to books, I am either trying to occupy my time at night between the hours of 2:00 a.m. and 5:00 a.m. trying to distract my mind or I am listening to it while at work through my Audible app.

I really enjoyed this one. I found myself listening to it through my headphones while jogging instead of music because I liked it so much.

It’s the typical “what if” love story in my opinion.  Not all couples talk about it but I do believe every person, man or woman, has that “what if” past relationship especially with Facebook around now.  I have read many articles or heard several stories that people have “hooked back up” with an ex boyfriend or girlfriend from their high school years.  Lets’ face it… it starts out innocent and you start messaging each other and eventually a funny story comes up from the past or you start going down memory lane.  Suddenly you remember how easy things were and sparks start flying, etc.

Well yea… you’re married now and have bills, raising children, living with someone, etc.  Back then, your biggest concern was if your crush spoke to you in the hall way or what you were going to wear the next day; all of which are very serious concerns at that age of course.  🙂 For the moment, it takes you back to a time when things were easier.  I don’t think people realize it though and that’s why many have left their current relationships for “the greener side” .  I don’t know of any of these relationships that have lasted personally.  Maybe there are some. I don’t know.

In the book, Ellen (the main character) had every woman’s dream life: the awesome, attentive husband, the SIL who is her best friend (wouldn’t that be awesome??? Mine hates me and has never even had a conversation with me) , the in-laws who have money and do not judge her family for being “normal”, she doesn’t have to work, has the dream house, etc.  However, still, she runs into the “one that got away” and wonders…..  of course she realizes that although she still has feelings for this man and her crotch may throb just thinking of him, that her husband is the one she belongs with.  Thankfully, her husband ended up being understanding and he in the end, came after her to prove he still loved her.

I have to admit, I cried when he came looking for her knowing she may be with her ex.  I think when a man or woman starts searching there is reason.  I am not saying it is right but I am saying that a relationship needs “courting” even through the hustle and bustle.  Just because you’re married, the surprises do not need to stop nor does showing appreciation, surprising her, dancing, etc.

For the most part, when I get depressed and sappy wishing the hubs would pay attention to me or I feel pushed to the side as so many women do, I find comfort in blaming Walt Disney.  Well, sometimes Nicholas Sparks as well.  Oh, and the lady who wrote 50 Shades of Grey as well.  I have had to realize the hubs is never going to show up to pick me up to take me to dinner in his helicopter.  It’s been very hard to come to terms with this fact but I am trying.  I would be happy if he told me and my girls  to go shopping for something nice, get our nails done and be ready for us all to ride in the 2008 Highlander and surprise us with a fancy downtown dinner and take us to see “The Nutcracker” or any other cheezy play that men don’t like followed by a trip to the Chocolate bar after.  🙂  Okay, I am now depressed again!

Damn you Walt!